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Comment on Needs? Not me! by Catatonic Kid

Catatonic Kid — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 02:45:04 +0000

i get confused at the same point. i think maybe because selfless is my default. not in a martyr-ish way, most of the time. just in an “it didn’t even occur to me to think of myself” way. most of the time it genuinely doesn’t. so i keep reading the Buddhist stuff and i realise that unless i get that anger under control, and those needs met then any good karma i build up gets undone right away because the anger eats it all up — even if it’s only anger at myself. or maybe worst of all like that i’m not sure.

and i start to think about how selfless really does mean without self. it isn’t about giving things up that we need. we still ‘cherish’ the form. we don’t give up on that but we do notice with awareness that what we’re doing is always without self because it’s an illusion anyway. a transitory thing, just like our needs. that doesn’t mean we ignore them, though, yeah?

Comment on Perfectionism by mastgirl

mastgirl — Thu, 07 May 2009 23:43:36 +0000

No drivel there at all. I love that live “a flawed person trying to be flawless”.
I think I’d get a lot more done without that perfectionism bug hanging around.
Good post.

Comment on Perfectionism by eeabee

eeabee — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 04:16:39 +0000

Hooray! I know it’s hard to start writing and I can certainly hear that here. I don’t hear and drivel!

And you know, I think you’re already changing in the time I’ve known you.

Comment on Needs? Not me! by eeabee

eeabee — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 11:38:17 +0000

This happened to me too in a way–I got one of those lists of emotional needs and the list implies that these are normal human and therefore acceptable needs–what a shocking revelation. I don’t always believe that any needs are okay (for me) so maybe I need to see if I can dig up that list and revisit it. Thanks for this post!

Comment on Shame Binds or/and a Cliffside Dance Party by eeabee

eeabee — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 02:48:17 +0000

Thank you for your encouraging comment!

Comment on Shame Binds or/and a Cliffside Dance Party by Karen Halls

Karen Halls — Mon, 25 Feb 2008 04:32:16 +0000

I found your site on google blog search and read a few of your other posts. Keep up the good work. Just added your RSS feed to my feed reader. Look forward to reading more from you.

Karen Halls

Comment on The self in its unity and boundedness and other fanciful myths by mastgirl

mastgirl — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 02:33:50 +0000

I really like your writing. The line that “a self may not know it can announce boundaries, that it can claim anything at all, or even that it can speak” is so true, and I especially like the next paragraph on coming to terms with this and “learning to take notice”…to find a voice, but with compassion.

Comment on One of Those Days by mastgirl

mastgirl — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 00:56:07 +0000

Thank you for your thoughts. Boy, it sounds like you know where I’m coming from! Maybe you’re right about the drama. I’d rather believe that than that I’m lazy…I think. I want to get used to not being in crisis mode…that gets so draining.

Comment on One of Those Days by jaye

jaye — Thu, 14 Feb 2008 20:19:47 +0000

I know the overwhelming thoughts, the thinking that won’t stop before I go to sleep, the thinking that I can hide from when I am awake and keep busy. The big “p” word – I know that, too. Nothing gets done until it is a crisis and then I can worry about that, too. To find the Nike thing – that would be great. Just do it! Somehow it doesn’t feel as good without a bunch of drama though. Maybe I need drama to stay real -

Comment on Look Up by mastgirl

mastgirl — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 16:11:26 +0000

Thank you so much for your comment. I like the sound of “yoga of the heart”….sounds like something I should look in to. I want to be more open, less defensive/closed.
I think that if you’re going to be addicted to something that exercise is one of the better things to be addicted to…I’m not there yet, but hope to get back to that point soon.